Category: My Thoughts

Life and Times

Another crazy weekend in the UK has just unfolded.  We’ve had panic buying of fuel so now emergency workers can’t get fuel to get to work. This started principally due to the irresponsible news talking up the problem to make it a self fulfilling prophecy.  Politicians have been throwing around insults like kids in the…

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A Little Slack

I currently have some personal challenges and work related ones going on at the same time. The specifics are not important but it has got me thinking about the past. Twice when I’ve had significant mental health troubles it was a time when personal and work issues were occurring at the same time. I found…

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Forgiveness

Forgiveness, this is a tricky one for me. Today someone has suggested I should forgive someone for something.  I can take an awful lot before I get to the forgiveness stage, so the person pretty much needs to be a serial offender. I know the general view is you should forgive to stop yourself hurting…

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Order

Does anyone else find that life is a continual battle to find order?  This could be order in our personal life, at work or equally within the mind. I’m the sort of person who craves structure and I seem to spend an inordinate amount of time making order from the many thoughts whizzing around at…

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“Could”

I am starting to find it irritating how the media are using the word “could”. This has been particularly prevalent in respect of COVID-19 where they continually quote experts who say so and so “could” happen.  “Could” on its own is pretty meaningless without an indication of the likelihood as most things “could” happen. “Could”…

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Stuff And More Stuff

I was watching a TV programme recently and the main premise of it was if you have your home filled with items which reflect memories then that can stop you fully enjoying your future. This is an simplistic summary of it but the gist was somethings can hold you back. Whilst I don’t agree with…

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Always A Silver Lining

I’ve mentioned before I’ve had my challenges with alcohol in the past. I haven’t had a drink for a number of years, and I don’t crave it or even think about it but I still do avoid situations where there is alcohol.  The main reason for this is that I’m not confident how strong my…

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Philosophy of Life

Do people have a philosophy of life or is it really more of a high level set of principles they live by? I was thinking about this myself and struggled to find any structure around this. One principle I try to follow is to treat people as I like to be treated myself but other…

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“If You Don’t Mind”

“If you don’t mind” trips off the tongue. Whenever I say “I’m going to ABC”, “if you don’t mind” quickly follows like a hare out of the gate. I didn’t realise I did it until someone once pointed it out to me. Now I’m conscious of it and I know I do it all the…

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“Nice”

All my life, if people described me they would invariably say “he is nice”. When I was younger I was a bit aggrieved by this as why couldn’t they come up with a more exciting descriptor. “Nice” seemed boring and what you may say, for example, about a vanilla ice cream. As I’ve got older,…

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A Plus B Equals C

A philosophical question. If you are happy with where your life is now, do bad decisions or choices in the past truly matter. Arguably changing choices in the past, however small, could as with the butterfly affect impact where we are now. Consequently both the good and the bad are part of the current equation.…

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TV News – We Are All Doomed

I was reading an article today about whether TV news is bad for our mental health. I do think there is something in this. In the UK at least the news is dominated by the latest catastrophe or some other negative news, accidents, murders etc. It is just minute by minute negative news without any…

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The Elusive No

Small word, difficult for some of us to say. I want help, yes we’ll say, I have a problem will you solve, yes we say. “Yes” rolls off the tongue, “no” is never born except in our thoughts. During my therapy sessions I spent quite a bit of time talking about the challenging “no” All…

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Listening

I’m afraid this is another of my brain dumps. I’ve been reading some posts today where struggles with addiction particularly alcohol have been discussed. I’ve had my own challenges with alcohol in the past and I’m amazed at the bravery shown. These individuals are an inspiration in how they are facing their own battles. It’s…

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Head Or Heart

Follow the head or heart? A conundrum that all of us have had. Both pulling in different directions, which to choose. Or do we take the third option, toss a coin and let fate decide. I’ve generally followed my head in the past but I’ve learnt that often doesn’t end with the best outcomes for…

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Louder Than Words

I’ve recently changed jobs and my current employer as did my previous one has a strong anti-bullying message, so far so good. But and there is always a but, what goes unnoticed is the small scale stuff which on it’s own can be brushed off but when you put it together is pretty nasty. The…

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Acts of Kindness

As I think you know the rocks I paint are hidden to be hopefully found. I’m not sure if it is the same elsewhere but in the UK there are Facebook groups where found rocks can be posted. I write the address for my local group on the reverse of the rock. Mostly the rocks…

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A Refuge

I think like a lot on WordPress probably too much of my spare time is spent within the mind. Thoughts coming and going, some worthy of grabbing others just waft away never to be seen again. The mind though is a refuge, a safe place where we can be who we are, who we want…

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Friendly Fire

This is a spur of the moment post, just a flow of possibly reasoned views. In my life my faith has meandered, I started off as a Christian, studied Buddhism, read the Quran and have looked at many other faiths, current and past. The conclusion I have reached is that all faiths are ultimately worshipping…

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